Heh. I found a document with some of my sabbatical notes. Might help.
• Vacation is critical. • Family and friends mean a lot • Don’t be upset about small things, focus on the big stuff • It takes more money than you think, but about as much as you expected. • Relax and take the time to do walks. Walking dog is great! • Don’t be insecure anymore: You can handle anything, and don’t need to be afraid of anyone. • Ask permission, but occasionally do what you think is right. You’re probably right about it. • Schedule your time, have big blocks of nothing but always have something to do every week. ◦ Sometimes schedule to the day, but keep it broad. ◦ Set goals for time periods. 3 month periods seem to work well. • Remember the Baktuns. What do you want to do in the next 7 years? How about the next 7 things you want to do in 7 years. • Replace the frustration with kindness. Remember in most cases fighting and struggling really accomplishes little but making you and everyone around you upset. • Remember Aikido, keep one point, relax, and focus on being centered in the universe • Don’t let one bad thing spin out your day. Either put it in context, fix it if you can, or let it go if you can’t. • Don’t take on other people’s burdens. A lot of times it just makes them upset. • Don’t accept frustrations from others. The news, people, everyone seems to want you to choose sides so they know how to react. Don’t let them. They want you to burn up your time and resources for “their” cause. Find your own cause and focus/align with that. • Read the “news” less. Yes doomscrolling is fun, but you don’t need it for anything other than to warn you what is coming and prepare. • Be flexible. Live on Caribbean time, keep to a basic schedule and know when to snap to attention and focus in only on the critical things (like flights home)
Bad habits you have dropped: I’ve dropped the habit of picking fights with people and taking arbitrary sides for/against. Don’t do this. I still get frustrated over small things. Remember to let them go, most are easily forgotten in a day or week. I want to explain myself endlessly. As I learned with Discovery and my job report, less is best. Don’t even mention the odd thing on the report that has been holding you back, why give power to something like that? Narrate a positive story: You are in charge of your life, and although you should not lie and deceive yourself or others about it, why focus on just the bad things? Stop giving people every reason to say “no” and instead balance the good and reasons to say “yes” especially if you are right. Seek consensus, but don’t seek endless agreement. Some people won’t like your solution and that’s ok. They may have valid concerns which you can cross-check and address, but sometimes it’s ignorance. Trust yourself and your decisions more, they are usually right. Never throw people under the bus. Look around you and see the wonder that is life. Don’t just sleepwalk through it. Good habits you have picked up. • A certain amount of clutter is ok. Filth is bad, clutter is not. • Do the projects that matter to you, let the other ones go. • Accept no burdens from others without thinking about it. • Keep a personal calendar of events • Keep track of the finances • Pay someone else to do the dirty work • Worry less about the garden, and more about the flowers. • You don’t have to prove yourself anymore. Stop going for impossible tasks.
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Date: 2025-12-14 09:54 pm (UTC)• Vacation is critical.
• Family and friends mean a lot
• Don’t be upset about small things, focus on the big stuff
• It takes more money than you think, but about as much as you expected.
• Relax and take the time to do walks. Walking dog is great!
• Don’t be insecure anymore: You can handle anything, and don’t need to be afraid of anyone.
• Ask permission, but occasionally do what you think is right. You’re probably right about it.
• Schedule your time, have big blocks of nothing but always have something to do every week.
◦ Sometimes schedule to the day, but keep it broad.
◦ Set goals for time periods. 3 month periods seem to work well.
• Remember the Baktuns. What do you want to do in the next 7 years? How about the next 7 things you want to do in 7 years.
• Replace the frustration with kindness. Remember in most cases fighting and struggling really accomplishes little but making you and everyone around you upset.
• Remember Aikido, keep one point, relax, and focus on being centered in the universe
• Don’t let one bad thing spin out your day. Either put it in context, fix it if you can, or let it go if you can’t.
• Don’t take on other people’s burdens. A lot of times it just makes them upset.
• Don’t accept frustrations from others. The news, people, everyone seems to want you to choose sides so they know how to react. Don’t let them. They want you to burn up your time and resources for “their” cause. Find your own cause and focus/align with that.
• Read the “news” less. Yes doomscrolling is fun, but you don’t need it for anything other than to warn you what is coming and prepare.
• Be flexible. Live on Caribbean time, keep to a basic schedule and know when to snap to attention and focus in only on the critical things (like flights home)
Bad habits you have dropped:
I’ve dropped the habit of picking fights with people and taking arbitrary sides for/against. Don’t do this.
I still get frustrated over small things. Remember to let them go, most are easily forgotten in a day or week.
I want to explain myself endlessly. As I learned with Discovery and my job report, less is best. Don’t even mention the odd thing on the report that has been holding you back, why give power to something like that?
Narrate a positive story: You are in charge of your life, and although you should not lie and deceive yourself or others about it, why focus on just the bad things? Stop giving people every reason to say “no” and instead balance the good and reasons to say “yes” especially if you are right.
Seek consensus, but don’t seek endless agreement. Some people won’t like your solution and that’s ok. They may have valid concerns which you can cross-check and address, but sometimes it’s ignorance. Trust yourself and your decisions more, they are usually right.
Never throw people under the bus.
Look around you and see the wonder that is life. Don’t just sleepwalk through it.
Good habits you have picked up.
• A certain amount of clutter is ok. Filth is bad, clutter is not.
• Do the projects that matter to you, let the other ones go.
• Accept no burdens from others without thinking about it.
• Keep a personal calendar of events
• Keep track of the finances
• Pay someone else to do the dirty work
• Worry less about the garden, and more about the flowers.
• You don’t have to prove yourself anymore. Stop going for impossible tasks.
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